Sometimes, when women hear terms like “Proverbs 31” and “Biblical Womanhood” we want to just run home and hide under the covers. Truth is, most woman don’t understand the world’s view of what a woman’s role is within their lives, let alone the biblical standards of womanhood. Let’s face it, “girls just wanna have fun!” But, can you have fun? The world says your role as a woman is to be equal to men in every way. This means you are required to go to school, get the highest degree you can, get a high paying job and work tirelessly to climb [up] the corporate ladder. You must also maintain the highest standards of beauty by wearing the best clothing, carrying the best purses, rocking the latest fashion in shoe wear. You keep up your outward appearance through face creams, manicures and pedicures, spandex underwear to hold in and smooth out the excessive tummy pouch, a gym membership to work out so you can stop wearing the spandex underwear because it’s chaffing and pinching. Wait! We’re not done yet!
According to the world’s view on a woman’s role, we are also to attract the best man possible, through whatever means necessary. Then, get him to “put a ring on it.” You have an extravagant wedding ceremony that starts your union in debt; buy a home that cost you way more than you’d ever need to keep up “appearances”. You are expected to have children, be the best cook, mother and wife ever; putting all other moms and wives to shame. Other women should envy you because you totally rocked this life thing! Sounds exhausting right? That’s because it is exhausting, and you my dear, were never designed to do all those things and take on the role of the “Worldly [Super] Woman.” That “woman” is over-stressed, over-worked, over-pressured, and OVER her life. She has no fun and no joy. She takes on responsibilities that were never meant for her to take on.
Now, let’s look at the standards for the “Biblical Woman.” Don’t get scared and start thinking she’s got it worse because she’s required to be perfect. We first find women in Genesis 2:18-23:
”Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.”
The main thing to extract from these verses is that we were created to be helpers for mankind. Whether you are married, divorced, single, or widowed; you still have work and purpose in you as a woman. My hope is to give you 5 simple and practical guidelines to living out biblical womanhood:
1. Fear or reverence of the Lord is first in your life.
As a woman seeking to live more biblically, seeking the Lord is first and foremost. Start by reading the Word of God, listening to sermons and godly music, and reading/teachings. Make these things a part of your daily living and worship to the Lord. Believe that all Word in the bible is God breathed and useful for instructing, correcting, and guiding you to your place of destiny.
2. Be a woman of your word.
As women, we usually can be counted on for most things. But, this can also be our pitfall too. We over-commit ourselves due to poor planning, or being afraid to say “no” to anyone, especially someone special to us. Ladies, you don’t want to be thought of as a woman that neither God nor people can trust. Keep track of all your commitments and simplify them. Don’t be afraid of saying that you cannot commit to something now; try to re-evaluate and revisit the option at another time. Part of this journey, is walking in humility, and valuing others as above yourself (Philippians 2:3). Sometimes answering with a polite “no” and being faithful to your current commitments, regardless of what is going on, is the best thing you can do for others.
3. Embrace the refinement of your mistakes.
Let’s face it, we make mistakes and we make them often. Instead of pretending you have it all figured out, look for the godly perspective of other woman around you. Listen to their assessment of your character and the attributes that you need to work on. Then, really take those suggestions to the Lord in prayer and have Him help you, through the power of the Holy Spirit. Trust God to help you grow in these seasons and embrace the process of becoming a better woman through your mistakes.
4. Have an unbreakable spirit
I’m not asking nor expecting you to be superwoman. But, a woman living biblically has much more resolve and strength within her than a worldly woman. It’s true! You have the very Spirit of God that raised Jesus from the dead living inside of you!!! So, maybe you are kinda superwoman – like! Having an unbreakable spirit simply means that no matter what life throws at you, you will resolve within yourself to persevere towards the things that God has called you to do. Every day you will wake up; get dressed; worship the Lord; read your Bible; prepare your household for the day; go to work or look for work. You will get the education you desire, or that is required, you will write or create every day. The point is, no matter what is stretching you beyond what you think you can handle, every day you will move forward, and you will not break because God has given you the grace and steadfastness daily to do so.
5. Invest in other women.
As a woman living biblically, you must choose not to let the darkness or rejection of others grow a bitter root inside your heart. Instead, show kindness, love, peace, humility, faithfulness, gentleness, goodness, self-control, and patience (Galatians 5:22). As you learn these qualities and apply them yourself, pass them on to other girls and other woman. When you do this, God will richly fill your life and you will see that biblical womanhood is the very blessing that we, as women, were created for.
Dear God. Help us as women live out this lifestyle called Biblical womanhood. Helps us see you as totally soveriegn and reigning in our lives. This includes our activites, emotions and relationships. And help us to reflect daily on how we as women are glorifying you with our lives. Thank you for the strength, discernment and wisdom to get through today and all of our days ahead. In Jesus name, Amen.
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