This year I have been surrounded with many beautiful women in different stages of their walk with Christ. I’ve encountered their highs and their lows.
I have met with women in crucial stages of their relationship with God and provided godly counsel, support, prayer and love towards their situation, in hopes that they would see the light and change their ways. But we all know, sometimes that is not what happens. Situations generally don’t change overnight. It takes time, prayer, support, love,encouragement… and did I mention time?
When I have been pushed away and shut out, I had taken it as an offense to me. I took it as, “They don’t want anything to do with me because they don’t like what they hear. They don’t like what the Word has to say. Then I will keep my distance too.” But my heart wasn’t responding with a heart of love but with a heart of offense and rejection. However, as I decided to study 1 Thessalonians, I came across this brilliant verse.
“For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness. Therefore whoever disregards this, disregards not man but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you.” 1 Thessalonians 4:7-8
That struck my prideful, rejected heart. When they reject godly counsel, the Word, and/or other understandings of the doctrine of God they aren’t rejecting me. They aren’t saying “Michelle who are you to tell me this? I don’t care what you have to say” but they are rejecting God and His word. I don’t know if that helps you, but that takes so much pressure off of me!
Though sometimes we care so much for a person we want to say, “But this is going to help you! This will prevent a lot of unnecessary hurt!”, we have to remember that they aren’t rejecting us but God and His truth.
So now that this revelation hit me in the face, what does the Word tell me to do next?
“Now concerning brotherly love you have no need for anyone to write to you, for you yourselves have been taught by God to love one another, for that indeed is what you are doing to all the brothers throughout Macedonia. But we urge you, brothers, to do this more and more…” 1 Thessalonians 4: 9-10
“For God has not destined us for wrath, but to obtain salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ, who died for us so that whether we are awake or asleep we might live with him. Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.” 1 Thessalonians 5: 9-11
“And we urge you, brothers, admonish the idle, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all. See that no one repays anyone evil for evil, but always seek to do good to one another and to everyone. Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” 1 Thessalonians 5 :14-18
“Take care, brothers, lest there be in any of you an evil, unbelieving heart, leading you to fall away from the living God. But exhort one another every day, as long as it is called “today,” that none of you may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin.” Hebrews 3:12-13
So now what?
Still point to Jesus.
And when your heart ain’t right… pray, pray, pray.
See darlings, I hope I am not the only one who will experience this, because if you have’t yet, you will if you are involved in their lives enough to get resistance . They’ll push you. They’ll fight you. They‘ll ignore the word, but take heart and love, because they aren’t rejecting us.
Our goal is to always point them to Jesus and pray that their hearts may yield to His authority.
God I thank you for these women that are reading this blog. I pray you will remind them of your love for them. I pray as they go through resistance from others that you will remind them to love and pray. I pray you will give them your heart of mercy and grace. Holy Spirit lead them and give them understanding on how to effectively shepherd your daughters. And Lord if there are any women reading this and have rejected your word, pull them in by your strings of love. Remind them of the hope, truth, and life that comes from obeying your word. We love you Lord. In Jesus name. Amen