Live as You Are Called
Posted on August 25, 2014 by


Live as You Are Called

-Michelle Velazquez

God intends to use your time, talents, gifts, and faith in radical ways today as you are.

Only let each person lead the life that the Lord has assigned to him, and to which God has called him each one should remain in the condition in which he was called. Were you a bondservant when called? Do not be concerned about it. (But if you can gain your freedom, avail yourself of the opportunity.) For he who was called in the Lord as a bondservant is a freedman of the Lord. Likewise he who was free when called is a bondservant of Christ. You were bought with a price; do not become bondservants of men. So, brothers, in whatever condition each was called, there let him remain with God.” 1 Corinthians 7:17-34

What is the state the Lord has called you to right now? Are you single? Soon to be married? Married? Whatever the state the Lord has sovereignly planned for you is the life you are currently called to.

As we strive to lead the life to which we are called, we may find ourselves fighting to balance our time, to connect, to serve, or to find satisfaction and purpose in the stage of life we are in.  Above all, in everything we do and in everything we say, we are called to bring glory to God (1 Corinthians 10:31). So how can you as a single woman live as you are called? How, as a wife, can I live as I am called?

Let’s look at how Paul explains the life of a single woman and the life of a married woman.

I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 7:32-35


How beautifully is that stated? It’s so true as well! The unmarried woman should be most concerned about the things of the Lord and how to be holy in body and in spirit.  While the married woman’s interests are divided, her interests are first and foremost to the Lord, but her time is divided among her husband, kids, home, etc.

So I raise the question again, how can a single woman of the Lord be concerned about the things of the Lord? And how can I, as a married woman, do the same with additional interests?

Below are a few things I have composed and researched for you beauties.


Temporary singleness is a gift. It really is! It has the potential to be a wonderful season of any time, any place, any moment to spend time reading and studying His word, getting to know Jesus, and pursuing Him. Those who are unmarried can be relatively free from distractions and wide open for a life totally dedicated to God.  Don’t get me wrong, while being unmarried you still may have a job, bills to pay, and parents to honor and respect, but right now just evaluate how much time you have to spare.

Now that you have thought about it, how are you using that time? Are you giving the Lord your undivided devotion? Is your time spent between your iPhone, iPad, whatever iWant? Is it social media, texting that one dude you called it quits for the second time, catching up on our favorite netflix shows, working out, TV?  We may call it relaxing, but too often it looks, smells, and sounds a lot like we are wasting our time.


The best opportunity you can give is your “Yes.” Yes to coffee. Yes to helping with a move. Yes to putting envelopes on each seat. Yes to cooking for the new mom. Yes to a girl’s night.  Yes to helping with tear-down. Yes to babysitting. Yes to helping your mom around the house. Serving others can help keep your heart graceful towards others. 2

This is for both the married and unmarried, no doubt. However, those of you who are single have more opportunities to say Yes, without question.

For the married women with added responsibilities, invite the women in your community group to help you clean, take care of the little ones, prep a meal, or be with you while you do laundry. Use your time to meet, talk, and pray together as you each sharpen one another with the Word and learn from each other’s lives. Show anyone who is open and willing in your Community Group what it looks like to balance, as Paul describes, divided interests. Teach and display how to balance devotions with the Lord, serving your husband, and taking care of your children and home, even if you don’t have it all together (Titus 2:3-5).

For the married ladies, we can’t simply drop all of our responsibilities (cooking, taking care of the children, making sure our help is offered to our husband).  To be an effective steward of what we have been given as wives and moms, it takes us more time to prepare for what may seem like spontaneous serving than it would take for those whom are unmarried. You are able to say yes to things that require more of you than a married person could afford. 1

However, we ALL must be willing to say Yes to the body of Christ, He has placed around us.

If not, what do we need to rearrange in our lives to make that plausible? How are we using our time? What is taking up most your undivided attention? Who are you serving? What are some of the fillers in your role as a wife, mommy, employee, friend, leader, that prevent you from using your time well to glorify God and train women?

Let us as women be able to say as Paul said, “Imitate me, as I imitate Christ.” (1 Corinthians 11:11)


  1. Commmunity Group: Singleness can become difficult if you walk it outside of Christian community.  It’s best to put yourself in a community of people committed to the mission of Christ. Find a community group and become a part of living life together.
  2. Look for opportunities to be a regular part of a married person’s life and family. If you aren’t around enough to see any ugliness or messiness, perhaps you’re not around enough. Don’t impose on people, but don’t be afraid to request to spend time with them. Make it easy for them to say yes or no by being an eager and willing servant.
  3. Be a student of the Bible. Spend lots of time satisfying your soul in all that God has for you in Jesus.
  4. As your mind and heart are being shaped by scripture for marriage, take note of the examples of flawed but faithful marriages within your church and community group.
  5. Make friends. Find mission-minded friends and build relationships with them and be accountable to one another to make your not-yet married life matter for the kingdom.
  6. If your singleness lasts longer than you’d planned, take heart- you are becoming more and more like Jesus.


  1. Take time to re-evaluate how your time is being spent.  Are there some fillers you need to throw away? Set times to pray, to study, to invite girls over, to date your husband, to be with our children, to ______ -you name it.
  2. Community Group. If you aren’t already connected with the body of Christ through a Community Group, what are you waiting for?  Because face it- when you get married or if you are a new believer,  it doesn’t get any easier to learn how be a Christian wife and mother. It’s a blessing and a challenge. We need a group of people we can trust, pray for us, challenge us, and pour into us with their spiritual gifts, love, and time. Get connected and live life together. How beautiful is that?


1. Single, Satisfied, and Sent: Mission for the Not-Yet Married. (2013). Desiring God.

2. Marriage and the Single Girl. (2013). The Resurgence.

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